Surrogacy education
Successful surrogacy journeys start with educated Intended Parents
We teach Intended Parents how to do surrogacy independently in Canada.
Independent surrogacy means connecting with a surrogate directly, instead of waiting to be matched through an agency. It isn’t possible (or safe) in every country, but if your journey is taking place in Canada, the altruistic model makes it a valid option for Intended Parents.
You still go through the same legal, medical, and mental health screening every surrogacy journey requires, you just don't have to wait on a list to get started.
The Independent Surrogacy Course
Our self-paced video modules walk Intended Parents through everything you need to know to complete your surrogacy journey in Canada.
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What you can reimburse, what’s considered reasonable, and how to pay it out without putting yourself at risk.
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The documentation you need and a simple system that keeps everyone organized and protected.
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Every stage of an independent journey, in order, so you’re never guessing what comes next.
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What you’re responsible for, what your surrogate is entitled to, and where the lines are.
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Where IPs are actually matching and how to show up so the right person finds you.
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The questions to ask, and how to handle the first meeting.
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The early patterns that predict trouble later, so you can trust your gut with real information behind it.
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Real benchmarks for communication, expenses, timelines, and boundaries, so you know when something’s off.
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How to end a match respectfully, protect yourself, and move forward without losing momentum.
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How to bring up the topics nobody wants to raise, before they turn into problems.
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What to do when you and your surrogate don’t see eye to eye in the middle of a journey.
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The decisions to work through before you meet with a lawyer, so you go in prepared.
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The hospital, the delivery room, the first moments with your baby, and what happens after.
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Practical tools for the waiting, the uncertainty, and the big feelings.
Lots of places can tell you what to do.
We’re going to help you actually do it.
Choose your package
I’m trying to find a surrogate.
$8,500 CAD
You live in Canada, you have embryos, and you want to find your surrogate within the next six months.
The Independent Surrogacy Course
Lifetime access to all course content and documentation.A plan to find your surrogate
Using our Signature Match Method and our 4 Phase Approach to find the right surrogate quickly.1:1 coaching
Four 1-hour sessions for tailored support during the matching process ($1,000 value).Implications counselling
Free for up to two potential surrogates before they go to medical screening ($800 CAD value).Weekly group support
A place to bring your questions every week, and to connect with other IPs and surrogacy experts
Plus: A free MatchingDay.com profile, legal and partner discounts, webinars, mental health resources and more!
Signature program
I have a surrogate, now what?
$6,500 CAD
You’ve found your surrogate. You just need to know what comes next, and how to do it properly.
The Independent Surrogacy Course
Lifetime access to all course content and documentation.Implications counselling
Free for your surrogate before they go to medical screening ($800 CAD value).Weekly group support
A place to bring your questions every week, and to connect with other IPs and surrogacy experts
Plus: Legal and partner discounts, webinars, mental health resources and more!
What Intended Parents say
Hi, we’re Ariel and Ashley.
As registered social workers and psychotherapists with a combined 20 years in the fertility industry, we've lived surrogacy from every side: in the therapy room, the delivery room, and while building our own families. Ariel is a 5x gestational surrogate and 6x egg donor. Ashley is a former Intended Parent who spent years navigating fertility treatments of her own.
We created this because we were tired of watching Intended Parents piece together conflicting, and sometimes just plain wrong information, in an industry where too many people profit when IPs don't have the full picture.
This is the roadmap we wish existed when we needed it. Now, we make sure no one else has to do it the hard way.
How it works
Independent surrogacy, without the risk.
Talk to a surrogacy expert
Independent surrogacy isn’t for everybody, and we want you to be successful! The first step is to book a call with Ariel to find out what’s possible, and see if an independent path is an option for you.
Get educated
Once you join, you’ll have immediate access to our community platform and can begin working through our course modules. Go at your own pace, and learn everything you need to know for the journey ahead.
Begin your search for a surrogate
Using our tools and signature match method, connect with well-qualified surrogates anywhere in Canada. We’ll help you know what questions to ask and how to take the next steps.
Free surrogate pre-screening
When you find a surrogate, we help you make sure she’s both a good candidate for surrogacy, and the right fit for you. Before officially matching, your surrogate gets free implications counselling with our Registered Social Work team, and you get total peace of mind.
Medical/mental health screening
Once you’ve secured a match, you’ll complete medical screening through your fertility clinic. This includes blood work, ultrasound, review of reproductive health history, and mental health assessments to make sure pregnancy is safe and sustainable for her.
Legal contracts
Contracts are one of the most important steps in a surrogacy journey, and protect everyone involved. In Canada, you must have two separate fertility lawyers: one for you, and one for your surrogate.
Our course was developed with the help of a fertility lawyer to help Intended Parents understand their rights and responsibilities.
Embryo transfer
You’ll be prepared for the practical steps through an embryo transfer cycle including all paperwork and instructions on how to reimburse your surrogate.
Pregnancy
While this is an exciting step in the journey, it often brings up mixed feelings for Intended Parents. We make sure you’re supported through the ups and downs so you can build a healthy relationship with your surrogate and experience the pregnancy in a way that’s meaningful to you.
Birth and beyond
Learn how to talk to your future children about their surrogacy story, build healthy attachment and successfully transition to parenthood.
Is independent surrogacy a good fit for you?
Tell us about your journey so far and where you’re stuck, and we’ll help you understand your options.
Not really a phone person? We get it ;) You can also send us a message.
FAQ
Independent surrogacy in Canada
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Tell us about your journey and where you’re stuck.
We’ll help you figure out a path forward.
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